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Welcome to the Refine Blog
I want to talk about the Refine ideal client. Because yes, I have one…
I want to talk about who I’m seeking to cultivate community with…
Who I’m seeking to help grow….
Who I’m seeking to speak into my life as well, challenging me and holding me accountable to be a better leader at all times. Because I learn just as much here as I hope you are.
Before sharing the requirements of membership and the attributes and beliefs of the ideal Refiner, I want to tell you more about me so you have context on my lens and how I choose to operate this group:
I’m an open-minded, teachable, left-leaning moderate that has experienced life both in poverty and affluence. I live in a Blue island in a Red state. I’ve experienced abuse and trauma as well as healing. If there are extremes in life, I’ve experienced both ends. Those few things being said, I’m generally pretty capable of seeing both sides to most issues when discussed civilly. Yet, I do have firm convictions and backbone on my stances. It’s usually no secret where I stand. I believe having a firm stance and being empathetic to an opposing opinion are not mutually exclusive. I’m human, I’m messy and I make mistakes. But I pride myself in learning from those mistakes. I’m very frank, I do not sugar coat things, but I do have a very kind and altruistic heart – which is why I’m constantly campaigning for empathy (my knack for wordsmithing, that you all love and adore, is rooted in this). And guys, I’m freaking fun, too! Like this is the most boring and dull blog post ever to me. But it’s necessary. On a regular day, I don’t take myself too seriously. I’m sarcastic and dry. I am so weird and silly. And most importantly, I love Jesus, but I cuss a lot.
With a tiny glimpse into who I am, I lead Refine with the viewpoint of leaning into any and all conversations our industry needs to have. But in moderating posts and comments from members, I do keep two things in mind:
Now that you have my context and lens for leading the group, below is a list of attributes to outline the “Ideal Refiner.” It’s my dream that even in our free group, we align with this list; however that is self – regulated and on an honor system. Within the Refine Membership, these things will be non-negotiable and grounds for removal.
As you read these things, reflect on if this is you. I know this group isn’t for everyone. I know many of you disagree with me. Some of you have stronger loyalties elsewhere and some are here to scout me out to report back to others. Some of you are here to lurk and learn from others, despite not actually supporting me or Refine. Some of you feel you are entitled to this group, without an ounce of appreciation (or giving thought to) what it takes to offer this group to you. And you know what? Fair enough. Way to be resourceful.
But as you read this list, be honest with yourself…do you align with these things? And if not… or if you have any beef with me… or find yourself disagreeing with me more than agreeing, I would like to ask that you please remove yourself from the group and find one that best meets your needs. By the end of the summer, I would like this group to be whittled down to those committed to the following requirements, attributes and beliefs:
Membership Attributes and Beliefs:
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